The long distance tip of using code words is very important. Miscommunication abounds because we hear the words but are pulled to different conclusions based on inflection, passion, abruptness, lack of specificity, and distraction. Having one or two sets up more meaningful discussions in the future, even if one must forego the immediate unsatisfactory one is a wise move. Yes I know, a leopard is never in the tree you are looking for him to be in. Well done and stay furious!